One Simple Psychological Trigger That Will Get Your Ex Chasing You Around Like Crazy

If you want to get your girlfriend back or your boyfriend back, then what I’m about to reveal in this article is extremely powerful and must be used with absolute caution. This is based on human psychology triggers that is imprinted into us since the prehistoric days, and MOST people are effected by the trick I’m about to reveal with little hesitation.

This ONLY works based on this psychological principle:

  • People want what they can’t have

There is a REASON human beings want what they can’t have. Why? To push toward growth and advance in life. In the prehistoric days if everyone was happy hunting animals with sticks and sleeping under trees and caves, we wouldn’t have the world we have today. It’s due to this instinctive drive to want what we don’t already have – to strive for more – that makes this trick so powerful and very effective.

So how does this work?

Well, if you think about it, the main reason your ex is rejecting you is because they KNOW you want them more than they want you. If that wasn’t the case, this would be a mutual split and you wouldn’t be reading this article.

The trick is to make your ex THINK you don’t want them anymore and in fact, you’re happily moving on and pursuing other potential interests.

This is really damaging on a lot of levels:

  1. Your ex won’t understand why suddenly you don’t want them anymore (what has changed?)
  2. Your ex will be curious to know how you could so quickly move on (when often they’re still struggling with the break up themselves)
  3. Your ex wants to know whether you’re seeing someone else and who they are and if you’re happy.
  4. Your ex will instinctively want to chase you because THEY are the ones who can’t have you anymore.
  5. Your ex will be quietly jealous that the situation has been reversed on them and you’re the happy one while they’re not.

Now, there’s going to be some BIG resistance on your part to do any of this because your brain NATURALLY wants to chase and show your ex you love them and care for them. If you haven’t figured it out yet, check out the 5 deadly mistakes you must never make list to see what I mean.

However, if you look at it from a strategic point of view, you’ll understand why this makes MORE sense to do.

The biggest obstacle to using this method is your mindset and actually making yourself believe that you ARE moving on and over the whole relationship. (The method is simple but it’s the simple things that are actually the hardest to do!)

So here’s what you’re going to do:

Step 1: Send your ex a handwritten letter (email is ok, but a letter is better)

Step 2: In the letter you want to say that you’ve finally accepted the break up, you’re moving on, getting your life back on track and have exciting things coming up. Make it sound like you’re happy but not over the top. The key to the letter is to keep it very short (less than a 100 words if possible), and end it on a CLIFF HANGER.

TV shows are great at providing cliff hangers at the end of each show. A cliff hanger is usually something that provokes curiosity and entices the audience to want to watch the next show. The job is the keep the STORY in the mind of the audience so they are on the edge of their seat wanting more. That’s when the show ends and you scream at the TV out of frustration.

This is the same emotion you want to evoke at the end of the letter.

“I’m really excited about the weekend and going out this Saturday with someone new. You know… never mind…

Call me if you want.”

This is an example of a cliff hanger. It’s not so over the top that isn’t not unbelievable but it creates a similar type of feeling because you’re hinting you’re going out with someone new, and your ex will be wondering who this person is. It could be a friend but they will jump to conclusions and think it’s a new guy or girl you’re dating. That’s what you WANT them to think.

The ‘Call me’ part at the end is absolutely crucial because you need to tell your ex what you want them to do. If you don’t, they will not call or do anything. Don’t drop the ball by leaving this out! At the same time you don’t want to sound desperate or wishy washy, so the state of Call me needs to strong and clear. For example, don’t do this: “I’m free whenever you feel like talking, I’m here for you.” That sounds too desperate.

That’s about it!

Don’t go over the top. Send the letter and wait for their call. If they don’t call you, send an “accidental” text message saying “I’ll see you tomorrow.” then say “oops” afterward to your ex. The other important thing to note is the power of No Contact.

After you send the letter, if you stick to No Contact, the pure fact that there is no communication will make your ex think all kinds of crazy thoughts about you. This is how you reverse the effect of being the one chasing your ex to having your ex chase you like crazy.

WARNING!

Now, clearly this is only the START of getting an ex girlfriend or boyfriend to chase, it doesn’t stop here. And often you need to maintain the momentum of “the chase” so your ex is always the one chasing until they are the one begging you back into the relationship. The complete strategy is given in detail in this system The Ex Recovery System, which you can learn more about on the next page.

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(Once again, remember to use this tactic with caution and be careful that once your ex DOES call you need to have a set plan in place or else you may end up going backwards again. Head to the link above to get the full scoop.)

First Sign Your Ex Wants You Back Guaranteed

Here’s a simple tip to find out whether your ex girlfriend or boyfriend wants you back..

When He or She Shows ANY Kind of Emotions Your Way

People are addicted to emotions. Good or bad, they need it to feel alive! The kind of emotions we crave are those that we don’t often experience… emotions that are strong and overwhelming; the kind that you can physically FEEL.

The most intoxicating emotion we all want to experience is LOVE. Love is more than just an emotion, but when we talk about “being in love” or “falling in love”, it is something we can feel.

So if we LOVE something, when we want to feel the opposite, we must HATE it right?

Wrong!! Ever heard of the saying “There is a thin line between love and hate?”

Love and Hate are in fact a part of the same family. The two emotions can both be fiery, passionate, outrageous, spontaneous and sometimes irrational. When we choose to associate Love or Hate towards an action, it means we’re choosing to “CARE” about it.

How often do you “hate” something you hold little value or thought towards? You only hate the things that resonate with your “core”; the things that matter more to you than meets the eye.

So what is the opposite of Love? If love is a fiery emotion, the opposite must be one devoid of all emotions.

The opposite of love is complete indifference, because indifference is not an emotion. It means you don’t care about something. You don’t hold any feelings towards it whatsoever.

Emotions are GOOD, even the bad. It’s indifference you need to watch out for.

Note:

Indifference can be a nice disguise for FEAR. The reason being, although Fear is a strong emotion, it is one of the few emotions that suck energy INWARD rather than OUTWARD. When you’re fearful, you retreat inward, to your inner child or your inner voice.

If your ex is fearful of you or a relationship with you, that is a LEARNED behaviour and something that needs to be worked towards REPLACING with a different emotion.

This is only the first sign that your ex is definitely not over you. In fact, you are VERY close to getting them back if you know where to look and what to do about it.

On the next page, I want to reveal to you a video that reveals ALL the signs you need to watch out for, as well as the exact step-by-step psychological system on how to win your ex back when the signs are there but you just don’t know how to bridge that gap and make them come running back in a heartbeat.

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(P.S. Even when signs are there, you need to know how to recognize it and take the appropriate action when the time comes. Don’t allow the opportunity to get back together with him or get back together with her to slip away from you unnoticed!)

5 Deadly Mistakes When Trying to Win Your Ex Back – You Could Be Ruining Your Chances Right Now

A few years ago, I was in a relationship with a man I really loved and cared about. Our relationship was far from perfect and we argued all the time, but we loved each other and for a long time, I thought that was enough. I believed the rest would just work itself out.

Consciously, I thought things were going fine. We had issues but we were “working” on them.

Subconsciously however, a lot of underlying tension was brewing. This soon would erupt and cause fatal melt down to our relationship.

One unsuspecting day, we had another one of our arguments. There was nothing out of the ordinary about it. I was complaining about how he never wanted to do things with me, and never thought of me. Basically, I felt unappreciated.

I wanted him to talk to me and make me feel better.

He didn’t.

At first, I was calm. I wanted to just talk. Get the issue out in the open and not just sit on it.

He refused.

I got a little more upset. I couldn’t understand his reasoning here. What’s wrong with just talking about things?

I started calling him on the phone. He wouldn’t pick up. I tried 3 more times. He had disappeared.

That’s when something inside me clicked. I realized for the first time, that I didn’t deserve this. I didn’t want to be with someone who would rather run away and hide than deal with our problems.

This was the first time I seriously considered breaking up. Immediately after that, I thought about leaving the relationship for good.

At first, this made me feel empowered. I started recounting every argument we’d had, collecting justification for this newfound decision of mine. This made me feel good. I wasn’t hurting anymore.

My newfound strength lasted about 4 hours.

By the 5th hour, I was missing him terribly again, asking myself why he was such an idiot and why I still loved him so much.

At this point, my decision had changed from being certain I wanted out – to saying things like… “If he calls me now and apologizes, I’ll forgive him.” Or “I’ll give him another day or so to make it up to me.” Or “I was being a little unreasonable, maybe I should call him and apologize. I do miss him.”

In the end I decided that I would wait for him to contact me. After all, I was the one who reached out to him last, and he had to know I was waiting for him to call me. Right?

He didn’t call the next day.

Or the day after that.

By Day 3, I was starting to think he was the one breaking up with ME.

On Day 4, he sent me an email.

It was long, but the gist of the email was basically him defending himself and how he did no wrong in the whole ordeal.

He had a knack for conjuring up excuses that removed him from taking responsibility for anything.

I guess he made up my mind for me. I knew I wasn’t too smart, but I wasn’t THAT dumb either.

The shocking part wasn’t that I broke up with him after this letter (all clues were pointing that way), but what happened AFTER I broke up with him.

Apparently, when someone breaks up with you (whether the relationship was good or not), a chemical reaction in your brain is trigger, called the “DESPERATE and NEEDY” chemical – this new chemical in your system gives you a sudden new purpose in life..

“ to chase your ex as hard as you can until they give in!”

This was what my ex did, and let me warn you now. 95% of you will have it after a break up! Even if you don’t act on this impulse to chase your ex, you will still feel it in your bones.

Learn from my ex, what NOT to do if you want to get your ex back (there are better ways, trust me).

Don’t let this happen to you!

Mistake #1 – Remaining in Constant Contact

Reason you may want to do this: I don’t want my ex to forget about me or think I don’t care.

Most people don’t like the idea of stopping all contact. It’s out of their comfort zone and deathly intimidating.

The terribly real fear is that your ex may forget about you and find someone else – younger and better than you.

So I guess you counteract this fear by keeping a lock-tight eye on them – calling, emailing, txting or randomly popping up at their place.

After all, having a friendly relationship is better than no relationship at all, and that means you still have some power over their decision to date, not date and maybe, even get back together with you.

This couldn’t be more wrong.

You must fight AGAINST your natural instinct to chase after a rejection because it does nothing but make you look weak and desperate.

Case in point.

What is your natural reaction to someone running full force at you, arms outstretched, tongue hanging out, and a sure desperation in their eyes?

Counter that with your reaction to the majestic sculpture of Michelangelo’s statue of David. Which would make you stare at in awe and which would make you run?

Humans are repelled by the weak, drawn to the powerful.

So if you find yourself calling your ex over and over, stalking them all over social media sites, sending a string of emails with ILOVEYOUILOVEILOVEYOU all over them, it’s maybe time to step back and observe the disasterpiece you’ve created for yourself.

Just like any horrendous painting, you CAN wipe the slate clean and start anew.

Mistake #2 – Using Reason and Logic

Reason you may want to do this: If I make a good argument why breaking up is not the solution, then my ex will see my logic and come back.

Logic has no place in a break up. We are driven by irrational wants and irrational emotions. Your argument may be sound but if your ex doesn’t believe you then it won’t matter what you say.

No one wants to be convinced they’re wrong, and that’s what you’re essentially saying when you try to reason your ex this way.

Here’s the truth. Your ex has their external reasons for breaking up and then there’s their internal reasons. Down to the core, we’re driven by our internal wants and desires. It’s hard to change someone’s mind if you’re not sure what is motivating them in the first place.

The mistake is to assume that you know what’s best for them when you only know what they’ve allowed you to know.

To get through to your ex, you must show them through your actions the qualities they desire, as well as giving them time to come to their own conclusion.

Your ex will want you back when they realize it’s far more rewarding to be with you than without you.

Mistake #3 – Being Extra Nice and Loving or Changing Behaviour Too Quickly

Reason you may want to do this: If I’m extra nice, sweet and loving around my ex then they’ll see I’ve changed and come back.

Most of us have learned through experience that if something seems too good to be true, it usually is.

The downside to changing too quickly after a break up, is the unbelievably factor.

It’s just not believable that your new change is sustainable over a long period of time. If your ex doesn’t believe you, they won’t trust you enough to come back.

Slow and gradual progress works much better here.

Mistake #4 – Taking No Contact to the Extreme

Reason you may want to do this: If I just ignore my ex, they’ll see they can’t live without me and come back.

Ignoring someone – or in other words – pretending they don’t exist and not worth your time, will not get you in the good books with anyone. It may catch their attention, but eventually you’ll have to stop ignoring them.

Once you go back on contact, that’s when you get hit with the consequences.

Case in point. My ex may have waited too long for an apology. And when the apology came (was there one?) it wasn’t even sincere.

Put aside the idea that there has to be someone right and someone wrong. If the only reason you’re holding back contact is so you can avoid admitting defeat, then ask yourself this:

“Would I rather be right or in love?”

Mistake #5 – Deliberately Doing Things to Piss Your Ex Off

Reason you may want to do this: If I just make their life miserable, they’ll see they’re better off with me than without me.

Sometimes we’re so hurt and frustrated by someone that instead of doing what we know to win them back, we direct our anger at them instead.

You may want to hurt your ex to get back at them. You may want to yell, blame, name-call and lay on the guilt-trip because you don’t know what else to do. But doing so will hurt you ten times more than it will hurt your ex.

Key point to remember: “The secret to getting what you want is to give whatever it is you wish to receive.”

If you give out abuse, expect abuse back. If you only give out kindness and love, that’s what you’ll receive as well.

The trick is to prepare for outbursts beforehand. If you know a part of you hate your ex for doing what they did, do NOT seek contact with them until that emotion has subsided.

I won’t go into the details of how my ex made these mistakes, but he did. At one point, I thought to myself: “Who is this person?” It made me question whether I really knew him at all.

The point is break ups bring out the WORST in people. IE. all your insecurities, fears and weaknesses come floating up to the surface and it can make you do crazy things that create lasting damage to your relationship.

Is it Too Late If You’ve Made One or All of These Mistakes?

I want to show you that DESPITE these mistakes, there is a chance to win your ex back. The reason I say this is that MOST people make mistakes after a break up because they weren’t told what they’re meant to do. There is no “The Best Way to Behave After a Break Up” manual you can simply pick up.

Also, let me remind you that despite all your flawed actions to win them back, your ex is NOT perfect either! They are human too and they also make mistakes. Hence making them the most forgiving people on the planet because they understand your actions to a certain degree.

I want to show you this free video on “Signs Your Ex Wants You Back” – in it I reveal some of the biggest misconceptions people have when it comes to interpreting an ex partner’s actions and thinking process after a break up.

I will also reveal the exact step-by-step psychological system on how to win your ex back even if your chances seem bleak and you’ve made ALL the mistakes above.

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(Remember, this may be your last chance to win your ex back. Don’t hesitate to take action even if you’re uncertain of the outcome.)