If you want to get your girlfriend back or your boyfriend back, then what I’m about to reveal in this article is extremely powerful and must be used with absolute caution. This is based on human psychology triggers that is imprinted into us since the prehistoric days, and MOST people are effected by the trick I’m about to reveal with little hesitation.
This ONLY works based on this psychological principle:
- People want what they can’t have
There is a REASON human beings want what they can’t have. Why? To push toward growth and advance in life. In the prehistoric days if everyone was happy hunting animals with sticks and sleeping under trees and caves, we wouldn’t have the world we have today. It’s due to this instinctive drive to want what we don’t already have – to strive for more – that makes this trick so powerful and very effective.
So how does this work?
Well, if you think about it, the main reason your ex is rejecting you is because they KNOW you want them more than they want you. If that wasn’t the case, this would be a mutual split and you wouldn’t be reading this article.
The trick is to make your ex THINK you don’t want them anymore and in fact, you’re happily moving on and pursuing other potential interests.
This is really damaging on a lot of levels:
- Your ex won’t understand why suddenly you don’t want them anymore (what has changed?)
- Your ex will be curious to know how you could so quickly move on (when often they’re still struggling with the break up themselves)
- Your ex wants to know whether you’re seeing someone else and who they are and if you’re happy.
- Your ex will instinctively want to chase you because THEY are the ones who can’t have you anymore.
- Your ex will be quietly jealous that the situation has been reversed on them and you’re the happy one while they’re not.
Now, there’s going to be some BIG resistance on your part to do any of this because your brain NATURALLY wants to chase and show your ex you love them and care for them. If you haven’t figured it out yet, check out the 5 deadly mistakes you must never make list to see what I mean.
However, if you look at it from a strategic point of view, you’ll understand why this makes MORE sense to do.
The biggest obstacle to using this method is your mindset and actually making yourself believe that you ARE moving on and over the whole relationship. (The method is simple but it’s the simple things that are actually the hardest to do!)
So here’s what you’re going to do:
Step 1: Send your ex a handwritten letter (email is ok, but a letter is better)
Step 2: In the letter you want to say that you’ve finally accepted the break up, you’re moving on, getting your life back on track and have exciting things coming up. Make it sound like you’re happy but not over the top. The key to the letter is to keep it very short (less than a 100 words if possible), and end it on a CLIFF HANGER.
TV shows are great at providing cliff hangers at the end of each show. A cliff hanger is usually something that provokes curiosity and entices the audience to want to watch the next show. The job is the keep the STORY in the mind of the audience so they are on the edge of their seat wanting more. That’s when the show ends and you scream at the TV out of frustration.
This is the same emotion you want to evoke at the end of the letter.
“I’m really excited about the weekend and going out this Saturday with someone new. You know… never mind…
Call me if you want.”
This is an example of a cliff hanger. It’s not so over the top that isn’t not unbelievable but it creates a similar type of feeling because you’re hinting you’re going out with someone new, and your ex will be wondering who this person is. It could be a friend but they will jump to conclusions and think it’s a new guy or girl you’re dating. That’s what you WANT them to think.
The ‘Call me’ part at the end is absolutely crucial because you need to tell your ex what you want them to do. If you don’t, they will not call or do anything. Don’t drop the ball by leaving this out! At the same time you don’t want to sound desperate or wishy washy, so the state of Call me needs to strong and clear. For example, don’t do this: “I’m free whenever you feel like talking, I’m here for you.” That sounds too desperate.
That’s about it!
Don’t go over the top. Send the letter and wait for their call. If they don’t call you, send an “accidental” text message saying “I’ll see you tomorrow.” then say “oops” afterward to your ex. The other important thing to note is the power of No Contact.
After you send the letter, if you stick to No Contact, the pure fact that there is no communication will make your ex think all kinds of crazy thoughts about you. This is how you reverse the effect of being the one chasing your ex to having your ex chase you like crazy.
WARNING!
Now, clearly this is only the START of getting an ex girlfriend or boyfriend to chase, it doesn’t stop here. And often you need to maintain the momentum of “the chase” so your ex is always the one chasing until they are the one begging you back into the relationship. The complete strategy is given in detail in this system The Ex Recovery System, which you can learn more about on the next page.
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(Once again, remember to use this tactic with caution and be careful that once your ex DOES call you need to have a set plan in place or else you may end up going backwards again. Head to the link above to get the full scoop.)